In a world filled with negativity, we are constantly reminded to “stay positive.” And while that advice is certainly well-meant, it is not always realistic. Staying positive 100% of the time is not something we are wired to do, and it can often become toxic. However, by practicing healthy positivity, we can learn how to view ourselves and our lives in a more positive light without harming our mental health.

Healthy positivity vs. toxic positivity

“Stay positive,” “positive vibes only,” and “stop being so negative” are all examples of toxic positivity. It is the idea that you must stay positive all day, every day, no matter what happens. But this is not realistic. Our lives go through ups and downs and denying our bad feelings or ignoring our problems can actually make us feel worse, not better.

Healthy positivity, meanwhile, allows you to view your life in a more positive light without denying the bad things that are happening. In other words, you acknowledge your negative emotions or bad situations, and then you use positive thinking strategies to cope. You don’t deny what you are feeling, but you also don’t fall into a pit of despair and self-pity.

How to practice healthy positivity

Many of us view our bodies, our abilities, and our lives in a distorted, mostly negative, way. But we can restructure our brains and thinking patterns to help change how we view ourselves. Here’s how:

• Self-compassion: When you’re dealing with negative emotions, instead of pushing them away, learn to have compassion for yourself. Respond to your dark feelings with love and care just as you would to a friend.

• Identify cognitive distortions: Cognitive distortions are negative thinking patterns that skew how we view a situation. Catastrophizing, all-or-nothing thinking, and magnification are all examples of cognitive distortions.

• ·Practice positive self-talk: Positive self-talk entails taking those negative thinking patterns mentioned above and restructuring them so that they are more positive. For example, if you think to yourself “I’m too fat to ever get a boyfriend,” identify the cognitive distortions (e.g., all-or-nothing thinking, magnification) and then change the thought to “I am unique just like everyone else, and someone will love me for it.”

Fostering healthy positivity over toxic positivity can lead to a happier, more confident life. At 204 Boudoir, we want everyone to feel empowered and proud in their own skin. That’s why we believe our boudoir photography photoshoots can help you boost your self-esteem and view yourself in a more positive light. Contact us today to learn more!